Isn’t it utterly romantic when a guy you have been dating or having feelings for decides to go all out and propose to you? Not just propose, but goes all out setting up the perfect moment with, music, the ambience, with the perfect choice of words, gestures all well intentioned and let’s not forget the perfect ring!
I was watching this serial on star world the other day. The hero, although well prepared, decides to be spontaneous and proposes to the heroine in a park. Now one would wonder, why a park of all places. But in here, the heroine usually goes there and sits on a swing whenever she needs to think. She finds it peaceful there. So I thought it was mighty thoughtful of the hero to do so in that very park! Everybody, including me, had been expecting him to pop the question considering the simmering hot romance between the two over the last one year. He accompanies her to the park this time, goes down on one knee as she is sitting on the swing, and earnestly, fishes out a small velvet box of a sparkling solitaire, and asks her, ‘Will you marry me?’
The diehard romantic in me went , Sigh! And ’Awww!’
But the next moment I went, ‘Ewww!” when the heroine, instead of shedding ecstatic tears of joy and saying, ‘Oh! Yes!” says, ‘OMG! You are proposing!” She went on to hyperventilate and had a panic attack!
Okay, it is indeed a big decision and one does need to think and decide, but does it warrant this kind of a reaction? What is the guy likely to think?
I am beginning to come across a whole lot of women who are wary of proposals. They are commitment-phobic and love their independent status too much to let go of it. Fair enough, times have changed but when the right guy does come along and is serious enough to want to make it permanent, why not? We are talking about a lifetime of possible happiness and companionship. Of course a lifetime is a long time and one does need to constantly work on it.
There was a Jane Austen era, when a woman would start weaving dreams the moment she met the archetypal tall, handsome and Darcy-like man. I know things have changed now, but not so drastically, have they?
Every woman, when she comes across a man who fits the mental image of her perfect man would naturally expect him to eventually pop ‘the question’. It’s a given, somehow. I have always believed it’s a ‘woman’ thingie.to expect so. But imagine my shock and consternation when I see women fighting shy, steering clear and fervently praying that the man doesn’t propose. Leaves me stunned! Am I archaic and mushy? Has the world changed that much?
I am still the old-fashioned woman who reaches for a box of tissue when I see movies or read books in which men give in to the power of love and ask for the women to ‘complete’ them. Call me a foolish romantic but I’d like to believe in it all! The roses, the violin quartet, the carefully chosen ring possibly in a champagne flute, the beautiful moonlight night! The whole safari! Doesn’t the heart start racing or the knee go weak when you actually hear your man say the words – Will you marry me? It is testimony to the love he feels inside; he wants to make it permanent, come back home to you and have kids with you. Coming from a man that’s huge! I know a lot of cynics will scoff or snort and say ‘Get real’.
My dear young women, can we for once just hush the voices of doubt around us, close our eyes and just believe that here is something magical?
I think its beautiful to do so!