I thought about this in-depth and came to the conclusion we are victims of stereotypes and conditioning here as every behaviour is learned. Men are taught to control their emotions. To show emotions is a sign of weakness or vulnerability. It is something to be laughed at. Men are expected to be strong, macho and in-control at all times. I think it is a huge cross that they carry. From the beginning they are taught to control their tears as it’s a ‘girly’ thing to do. I didn’t know tears were gender-specific! If one feels hurt or high tear glands do their job. We are mentally wired that way. If for some reason boys grow up feeling they are less of men because of their emotions they are guilt-laden and try to suppress them. And we all know suppressing has long term effects. It finds surface in some way or the other which may be catastrophic. This is applicable for girls also. If they suppress they are called cold and unfeeling and even frigid.
It’s healthy to give vent to our emotions. As a woman I personally feel a man needs to be a natural human being first. He needs to become aware of himself instead of toeing the lines of conventionality. He ought to bask in all that he is capable of feeling instead of putting them all in a box and shutting them. If he finds something to appreciate he should. If he wants to openly express love he should. If he is feeling sad and tears flow he should allow them to flow as long as he doesn’t overdoes it. As the saying goes, everything in moderation. If he thinks his woman is beautiful and desirable he should express instead of feeling its not a done thing. If it is through gestures why not? Ultimately its love that steers one and who are we to stop it? If it flows and if he is different as a result he is different. Nothing is lost but a lot is gained. Ask the others around him.
So go ahead, be a man! The right one at that! The one that endears all…..