In my understanding it is a phrase that is sometimes said to urge a broken person to find the courage to continue living, or find another purpose perhaps. Moving on doesn’t mean giving up, but rather accepting that there are things that cannot be, as people tend to spend time looking back at what’s lost. To such people it makes sense to tell them to move on and that life is not meant to be travelled backwards. One needs to move on from a chapter in the past by turning the page and the book necessarily needn’t be closed.
Having said that, I can’t help feel that this phrase is sometimes used frivolously. Your love has dumped you, move on! Somebody close to you has broken your trust, move on! A relationship is not working out, don't waste time trying to repair or salvage, just dump and move on! Options are aplenty they claim. But I wonder! Move on to what? More of the same mistakes? More of keeping your heart open for same hurt? Don’t the so-called compatriots – the mind and the heart need time to recoup? Where does changing oneself to accommodate the new learnings feature in this concept called ‘move on’? While its good to be determined to not let the past make you a person you are not, desperation is another thing altogether. In a hurry to move on one invariably ends up making more of the same or different mistakes. The human nature is such!
I must quote Rabindranath Tagore’s verses here:
‘Alas for our foolish human nature! Its fond mistakes are persistent. The dictates of reason take a long time to assert their own sway. The surest proofs meanwhile are disbelieved. False hope is clung to with all one's might and main, till a day comes when it has sucked the heart dry and it forcibly breaks through it's bonds and departs. After that comes the misery of awakening, and then once again the longing to get back into the maze of same mistakes.' - Rabindranath Tagore - the postmaster
Maybe taking a little time to do some serious introspection will do us good, when one is in a state to think clearly. The mind is so eager to moderate the beating, hurting heart that the head takes a backseat. The heart needs time to heal, to repair, to think and then set out. Gingerly at first and then with zest. Yes, life does not wait; it demands that we walk its path. But how we will walk is our choice.
Its not ‘Move on!’ but ‘move on…..