For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
My understanding of this statement is that in every interaction, there is a pair of forces acting on the two interacting objects. The size of the forces on the first object equals the size of the force on the second object. The direction of the force on the first object is opposite to the direction of the force on the second object. Force always comes in pairs – equal and opposite action-reaction force pairs.
Newton’s law being what it always has been, I couldn’t help, as usual go on a different trajectory with this one. Every relationship has two people interacting; it is never about one person in a relationship. When actions are in the form of anger, doubt, frustration, ego, negativity, sarcasm, defensiveness, bitterness, rejection etc they are reloaded on the other side too as reaction. The difference being, the opposite reaction may come at an inopportune time or when least expected. But it will come and the reactive force might be greater and have the ability to cause irreparable damage.
It is in our interest therefore to send out those forces that complement and add value, like love, positivity, compliments, understanding, support, encouragement and constructive criticism. That way you can be sure that the reactive forces will come back to you will be the same, possibly in higher quantity and greater quality.
Our whole world runs on the principle of tit for tat – he didn’t wish me for my birthday, so I won’t wish him for his. She was mean to me so I will be mean too. He didn’t make coffee for me so I won’t make for him either! He didn’t leave the toilet seat down so I won’t clean his room. He was sarcastic ten years back so I will give it back today! All of these come in pairs and progressively the action and reaction keep growing in size and quality.
We have a tendency to satisfy ourselves by resorting to counter-reactions in a bid to get back, or to get a sense of closure but if you really think about it they rarely succeed in making us feel alright. In a relationship, one ought to cultivate doing something for the other person because you want to, not because you want something back in return. It’s a dimension we need to think about and consciously work on.
The Sun, lives his character day in and day out by shining, never asking for us to shine back, neither is there a dip in his light. He shines, irrespective of any force acting upon him.
Why not learn a thing or two from him?