According to me, love is a faith, an emotion that takes years to develop and then build. It is a faith that one has in another based on the strength of character and actions that the partner has shown. Love is when you know you can depend on the other, that you will never be ridiculed for your ways and choices. It is also when you are supported and encouraged in all your endeavours, when your mistakes are not held against you and you don’t become less of a person just because you erred.
Love is when the other stands up for you and holds you when you are down. Love never judges you but gives you its honest opinion never taking away its voice of reason and yet keeps in mind your sensibilities and sensitivities. Love respects you and has faith in your abilities. It urges you to grow and believe in yourself even when you don’t. Love tells you in no certain terms what you need to hear. You may be aggrieved hearing it but if you sit down and reflect on it it’s the truth. Love may not agree with you all the time but it will be supportive of whatever decision you take.
Love may require your time and is nurtured by it but does not make demands. It is secure and lets you be just giving what you want making you realise that you receive by giving. Love is completely unconditional. It will not love you only when you behave in a particular way or when conditions are favourable. It does not demand reciprocity and can exist by itself in someone’s heart. Love exists in spite of you. Conditions never apply in love. Love believes in liberating, not restricting. Love’s happiness is in you. Even if you go after someone else, if true love exists it would try to understand why you did what you did, and how it can change to accommodate you again or it would just let you be who you want to be because love understands that with time humans are subject to change. Love wants you to be happy. In your happiness is its very core and existence.
Love does not change with seasons; neither does it disappear or abandon you at the slightest whiff of the problems. It will endure the storms with you never leaving your side and believing in your ability to traverse through the issues. Love does not believe in restricting you, but believes that it grows when you do. Neither does it curtail you. It works on you and with you.
There are times when love is tested. It goes through a period of silence or a dark tunnel after which if it is strong enough, will emerge stronger and brighter than before to be at your side. Love makes you aware of who you are, what you are capable of and the mountains that you are willing to scale. At the highest pinnacle of success you will look for that one reason for your success amongst other things and you will know that it is love that guided you in various forms. It would be standing behind you applauding you for what you have achieved.
Love is in the small things for it knows in life’s larger scheme of things it is these small things that stay long. Love cries with you and for you. It is your biggest companion and if we are true to ourselves we ought to acknowledge it in our lifetime if not give it its due. Love, like the Sun, moon and the rain just exists doing what it does, enriching, enlivening and empowering.